Tuesday, August 21, 2007

A friend knows your Heart Song --------

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

Do you remember when you were a kid and “best friends” were so very important. Everybody wanted to a “best friend” not just a friend. You might have 2 or 3 best friends in the same week. Pat was your “best friend” on Monday, then she told you that your dress was ugly so Mary was your “best friend” on Tuesday. As you got older best friends did not change so often but still they came and went. You learned that you could have more than one friend at a time. When you got into high school your friends were the most important people in the world – their opinion was more valuable than your parents and certainly more significant that your brothers or sisters. Your parents became incredibly stupid at this time in our life – but that is a different blog. No matter how hard I tried to convince our kids that the people they thought were so very important during high school would not be around in a few years, they would not listen – heck I sure did not listen when I was their age.
I think by the time we reached college age we tended to rely less on our friends. We are trying and figure out who we are and for the most part we see everyone else as competition – they are either competing for the guy we want or the job we want or the grades we want. It is sometime around the age of 25 that our parents get smart. How in the world did they get so smart over the passed few year? But at last we don’t start listening to them until we are 30 or so.
My Dad always said that if you had a handful – meaning 5 – close friends, the kind you could call in the middle of the night and know that they would listen - 3 friends that you could tell your greatest fear to and know that they would not share them with anyone else – 1 friend that you could go to and ask for money and they would not need to know the reason why – that you were a truly blessed person.
I can say that I am “truly blessed”. I am still friends with several people that I went to school with. I have friends from jobs long gone. Then there is the whole church thing – lots of friends there. Marian says we can’t go anywhere that I don’t run into some one I know. That is really a good feeling! You feel like you belong. Now the ones I run into that I have not seen for awhile and they tell me I look just like I use to worry me. Either they are trying to be too nice or they really need new glasses – I see that old woman staring back at me in the mirror.
BUT – the main reason I am blessed is because I am married to my “best friend”. The person that I want to spend my spare time with, the person that knows my greatest fears and doesn’t make fun of me when I cry for no reason. The person that holds my hand when I step off a curb but will let me change a car tire if I need to prove that “I AM WOMAN”. The person that gives me all the freedom I need then is there to pick up the pieces when I come back home with a broken heart because things just did not work out the way I thought they should. Tom knows my heart song and has often sung it to me when I have forgotten the words.

I have said all of this to say – if you are in a relationship now and that person is not the one you think of first when you have something you just HAVE to tell somebody – if you do not consider how pretty much every decision you make will effect them – You are not in the right relationship! And growing old ain’t going to be much fun.

Before Tom and I got married my Dad asked Tom one question – Have you prayed about this and have you waited for the answer.

God has to be a part of all relationships – have you invited him into yours?


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